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The Fear of
Being a Fraud

When the Fear of Being a Fraud is primary in your business and in your life, you live in fear that you’re not good enough, that clients might think you’re good now but if they find out what you’re really about you’ll be caught. You are in constant anxiety that you’re not smart enough, insightful enough, skilled enough, trying to do something you’re not meant to do. Even if you’ve reached a high level of success, this fear can completely control you and have you feel like a total beginner.

The internal dialogue that accompanies the Fear of Being a Fraud can sound like:

“If they sign up to work with me, they’ll find out I have no idea what I’m doing.”

“If I lead a group, they’ll laugh me out of the room.”

“How can I teach someone how to eat more healthfully if I still have 5 extra pounds onme?”

“What if I ask the wrong questions or make the wrong reflections?”

“I’m not good enough”

Expression, Obstacles & Origins

Your decisions, actions and relationships are often led this deep core
fear. The fear can control your actions, even though you know better,
and here are some things that may result:

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You don’t do as much outreach to potential clients as you would like to

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You tend to say no to invitations to speak or be seen….or worse, you say yes and then sabotage yourself somehow

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You either over-prepare or under-prepare for workshops, retreats or coaching sessions

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Your marketing doesn’t fully reflect who you are and what your brilliance is

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You feel you have to copy others in order to be accepted You under-charge

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You don’t show up fully present for your sessions, workshops or enrollment conversations

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You tend to take over-responsibility for clients and others

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You walk around with a lot of anxiety around whether or not you’ll be able to help your clients

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Even if you tend to have loyal clients, you’re always in fear that your business will fall apart

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You get nervous with clients or workshop members that show up as “The Judge” or the “Know it All” Resistance Archetypes

The Fear of Being a Fraud is directly related to not fully owning your brilliance and not being proud of who you are at your most authentic core. People who carry the Fear of Being a Fraud often say that they have spent so much energy trying to be like others or trying to cover up their “fraud”ness that they have completely veiled their truest self. This often originated from having a parent or authority figure who was highly successful themselves, or was never quite satisfied with who you were or who was very critical of you.

The Fear of Being a Fraud is often related to having a lot of shame – around your talents, your body, your personality or your origins. When you feel shame, it is very difficult to feel authentic, worthy and valuable. In this way, that Fear of Being a Fraud can sometimes be linked to the Fear of Being Seen which is the fear of literally being hurt or damaged because of who you are. A lot of folks with cultural backgrounds of persecution walk around with the Fear of Being a Fraud because of this.

Your Hidden Core Energetic:

THE QUEEN

When the Fear of Being a Fraud is present in your life or business, the Core Energetic you hold inside of you is the Queen. The Queen is the one who is fully comfortable in her own skin, owns her brilliances, skills and accomplishments and fully owns her value. She is experienced, has been around the block, and knows how deep her wisdom runs. She feels powerful, yet also creates space for others to be in their power. She’s not intimated by other people’s brilliance or success. She doesn’t need to impress anyone else or put on a show – she radiates wisdom, and experience. The Queen is the part of you who is regal and sophisticated. She loves being in the spotlight – not because she is greedy or ego driven – but because she knows deeply that she has a sacred gift to share with the world and is fully prepared to share that gift with grace and ease.

The Queen’s Highest Expression:

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Completely comfortable in your own skin

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All of your client sessions, retreats and marketing reflect your most authentic
self and brilliance: you’re not copying anyone else or trying to be anyone else

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You allow your intuition and natural wisdom to flow through all your client interactions

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You don’t worry about being “wrong” in your client interactions because you know that even if you make a mistake, you are still worthy, very capable, and great at what you do

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You charge rates that are fully aligned for you and reflect your value

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You are fully yourself, authentic and in your power in sessions, workshops and sales conversations

Suggested Actions to Reach Your Highest Expression:

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Make a list of all your brilliances and top results you help clients with – use this in your marketing, speaking, and enrollment conversations

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Tune into the Sacred Depths Coach Training modules of The Energetics of Coaching Relationships, Masterful Listening Skills, How to Help Clients off the Wheel of Self- Sabotage, Teaching Clients How to Nurture Themselves, and The Myth of Perfection

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Write a letter to your Little Girl Self and tell her how wonderful, amazing, talented and needed she is

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Visualize your Queen Self, sitting on your throne, embracing your power

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Make a list of 10 people you know who would be a perfect fit for your service or product and send them an email inviting them in for a conversation about it

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When facilitating groups, pay special attention to the skills of Creating a Sister Community free of the Sister Wound, The 4 Levels of Learning and Transformation, and Archetype Work around the Maiden and The Queen (I teach all of this & more in the Ritual & Facilitation Mastery Training Program)

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Read and re-read your client testimonials, and really take in – on a cellular level – the impact of your work

Andrea’s Queen Triumph Story

Andrea is an accomplished health coach, but when we first started working together, she was in constant fear that anyone prospects she connected with would think she was a quack, and reject her for not being knowledgeable or credentialed enough as a doctor. It was holding her back from being fully visible in her business, from expanding her community and platform, from charging her worth, and from really going as deep as she wanted to with her clients. As we worked to activate Andrea’s Queen, she became more and more outspoken on natural remedies, easily attracted frequent speaking engagements, and attracted in more clients than she ever had before. She also was able to expand her programs and raise her rates. Her Queen self allowed her to step into her mastery and be fully seen and visible for her brilliance in the world.

Meet Your

Mentor & Guide

Joanna Lindenbaum has coached & trained thousands around the world for 20 years. She is a powerhouse of human psyche insight, grounded intuition, and transformational techniques, which she generously shares with her students.

Joanna is the founder of the Applied Depth Practitioner Institute and the creator of the Sacred Depths Transformational Practitioner Training. She values integrity, being trauma-informed, and authenticity, and this shines through in all her work.

Because of the depth, quality, caring and extraordinary skills that Joanna brings to her work, her business runs mainly through happy clients that re-sign with her over and over again, and the referrals they send to her.

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The Core Energetics Assessment – Result B

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The Fear of Being a Fraud