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The Fear of
Disconnecting From Self
When the Fear of Disconnecting from Self is present in your life and business, you hold yourself back from creating the abundance and business success (or romantic life or healthy body, etc.) that you really want because you are convinced that if you were to achieve the success you want, you’d “become another person” – i.e., you won’t be soulful anymore, you won’t be authentic anymore, and you’ll lose the essence of who you really are. When this fear is in control, it’s almost as if you believe you’ll become a flattened, heart-less version of yourself if you were to create what you want and be happy.
The internal dialogue that accompanies the Fear of Disconnecting from Self one can sound like:
“If I were to become rich, I wouldn’t be down-to-earth anymore.”
“People that are famous don’t really care about their clients. They don’t have the right priorities or values.”
“You’re either creative or you’re rich. You can’t be both.”
“Achieving a high level of success means you have to sell your soul and give up your values.”
“My work is too spiritual to have a high price tag.”
Expression, Obstacles & Origins
As a result, your business decisions, actions and relationships reflect this deep core fear. The fear controls your actions, even though you know
better, and here are some things that likely result:
better, and here are some things that likely result:
You resist doing much marketing (or any marketing all), citing that it is inauthentic and not a spiritual activity
You insist on giving a sliding scale option, no matter what
You hold a lot of judgment towards others in your field who are succeeding
You judge your clients for wanting to go big, take big leaps or spend time on “surface” activities
You feel panicked when you have a high-income month
You feel uncomfortable sharing your success with your friends or clients who are “keepin’ it real”
You insist on keeping everything in your business grassroots, even when it’s holding you back or making things harder
The Fear of Disconnecting from Self often comes with lots of self-righteous feelings. It is associated with a deep commitment to things staying the same as they’ve always been or to not “becoming an adult” (think: Peter Pan syndrome). It is also often associated with a deep distrust of institutions, business, commercialism, popular culture or cultural norms. If you hold this fear inside of you, you are probably highly creative and really value alone time, introspection, personal development. It is likely that while you were growing up, you dealt with highly judgmental parental figures who perhaps found you too “out of the box”, and you found sanctuary by connecting inwards spiritually or artistically. Alternatively, if you hold the Fear of Disconnecting from Self, your may also come from a family, culture, race, sexual orientation, political philosophy or religion that is marginalized: You are very proud of your identity and are also very vigilante against that identity taking a backseat in your life.
Your Hidden Core Energetic:
THE ARTIST
When the Fear of Disconnecting from Self is present in your life or business, the Core Energetic you hold inside of you is the Artist. The Artist is the one who is always connected in to herself and her creative passion. She has a rich inner life. No matter what situation she is in – jeans & a T-shirt or gown and a tiara – she is plugged in to her inspiration and imagination. For the true Artist, riches, success, and happiness aren’t obstacles to the Inner Muse, but rather, activators of the Inner Muse. The Artist knows that she will always retain her authenticity, spiritual connection and deepconnection to her roots, no matter what. She is known as a Truth Speaker, and knows that her success brings more visibility and respect to her identity and roots. She is also an Individual, and remains herself no matter who she is with.
The Priestess’s Highest Expression:
You expand your platform and level of fame to communicate your values and
philosophies
philosophies
Your respect your deep need for down time, and you finds time and space for self- reflection no matter how busy you are
You charge high enough rates regularly so that you can offer additional “scholarship” spots for those that really need it
You remain yourself & down-to-earth no matter how big your business grows or no matter who your partner is
You are masterfully able to help your clients stay connected to their most authentic selves
Everyone in your retreats and workshops feels a sense of trust, vulnerability and authenticity
You market confidently & effectively and with full authenticity (no phoniness whatsoever)
Suggested Actions to Reach Your Highest Expression:
Take Yourself at least monthly on an Artist’s Date, and reveal in your time with yourself
Journal Regularly
Tune in to the Sacred Depths Coach Training modules of Reflecting the Truth, Journaling as a Coahing Tool, The Myth of Perfection & Black & White Thinking, Working with the Shadow, and Breakthrough Questioning skills
Write a FB post or newsletter article where you speak your truth fully, call out the injustices your see, and stand up for what you believe in
In your next sales call, stand fully behind the value of your rates and explain in detail the value of your work
Redefine the terms “Soulful” or “Artist” in ways that work for you
Pay special attention to the following facilitation skills: Working with Shadow, Creating Loving and Trusting Community, Special Techniques for Soulful Openings in Groups, Navigating the Resistance Archetypes
Highlight the things that make you unique and your personal quirks in your marketing materials
Julie’s Artist Triumph Story
When Julie – a massage therapist – and I first met, she was charging close to minimum wage for her massages. She had a small group of clients, but wasn’t earning enough from her massage business to support herself. She was in judgement of others for charging more. As we unraveled Julie’s fear of disconnecting from herself, what we found at the core is that her deep desire to stay true to her Artist roots (she was also a painter in her own right) was preventing her from fulling stepping into being an empowered business owner. She felt that as an artist, she had to “slum it” and keep it real. With that awareness, we were able to activate the highest expression of her Artist, who was fiercely passionate and committed to social justice, but who also honored the need to earn a good living in order to be of highest service. Julie now not only has an income-generating private practice, but she also now has a team of massage therapists working for her.
Meet Your
Mentor & Guide
Joanna Lindenbaum has coached & trained thousands around the world for 20 years. She is a powerhouse of human psyche insight, grounded intuition, and transformational techniques, which she generously shares with her students.
Joanna is the founder of the Applied Depth Practitioner Institute and the creator of the Sacred Depths Transformational Practitioner Training. She values integrity, being trauma-informed, and authenticity, and this shines through in all her work.
Because of the depth, quality, caring and extraordinary skills that Joanna brings to her work, her business runs mainly through happy clients that re-sign with her over and over again, and the referrals they send to her.
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